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Diabetes and Relationships

Diabetes and Relationships

Taking the Changes in Stride

When you are diagnosed with diabetes mellitus, management of the disease influences and changes all aspects of your life, including relationships. Certain changes are inevitable, and there’s no point in trying to keep diabetes in secret or in ignoring its influence on your life. Actually, this health condition should change your life and your relationships with your boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife. The fear of problems creates the problems, while the knowledge on how to benefit from the situation will help you to avoid any difficulties and continue living a happy life together.

How Relationships Can Be Affected?

In most cases, people with diabetes experience great fear that their relationships will be negatively affected by diabetes mellitus and by the changes they will have to make in their lives. In the reality, the consequences may indeed be negative only when a person with diabetes fully concentrates on the disease and doesn’t seek for ways to share the problems with a partner.

These are the common fears of diabetic patients:

  • It’s better not to share my negative feelings with my partner.
    This viewpoint is quite logical, as most often people who are diagnosed with diabetes mellitus experience a variety of negative feelings: fear, denial, anger, guilt, and even serious depression, which can’t but influence your relationships with your partner. Nevertheless, keeping these feelings to yourself is even worse. Your partner will notice that you gradually estrange yourself, and that’s what really can hurt relationships.
  • What if I lose the love and support of my partner when he/she gets to know I’m a diabetic?
    We know that it is much easier to love someone who has no problems in life than someone who suffers from a disease. Still, telling your partner about your diagnose is more beneficial than keeping it secret. Serious disease, on the contrary, will make your partner want to take even more care of you than before. Most importantly, you really need this care and support.
  • I don’t want my partner to start giving me advice on how to live my life with diabetes.
    Many people choose to deal with their problem on their own simply because they are afraid to be told what to do. Nevertheless, supporting a person with diabetes and giving orders are completely different things. The only person who can decide in what way you should manage your diabetes is your doctor. Other people, including your partner, will make the process easier, for example, by reminding you to take the pill. Isn’t it nice?

If you have already decided to fight with diabetes together with your partner, learn how to do this in the most beneficial way.

Turning a Problem into an Opportunity

As the experience of numerous couples shows, solving a problem together makes the relationships stronger, increases the levels of confidence in each other, and gives you more reasons to love each other deeply. Why not to regard diabetes mellitus as one of such problems that will only improve your relationships? Use these special techniques, and your partner will not only help you successfully manage diabetes throughout your whole life but also become more loving and devoted.

  • Talking
    Share your feelings and your fears with the partner. In such a way you will not only fight stress, but also give your partner a great opportunity to learn something new about you and give you a helping hand that you need so much.
  • Fighting Stress
    Both of you will experience stress after the diagnose of diabetes mellitus is established. Why not to fight this stress together? Choose a hobby or an activity that you both are interested in and spend more time having fun and enjoying your lives.
  • Joining a Support Group
    You are not the first couple that has to adjust their lives to diabetes. You can join one of that support groups that are organized to help diabetic patients and their relatives to cope with their problems. The experience of others is invaluable.
  • Studying Diabetes Together
    Take a diabetes education class or study information on diabetes at home together. You will get to know a lot about how to control your blood glucose levels, and your partner will be able to help you in case something goes wrong. What is more, realizing the seriousness of this disease together will make the desire to take care of you stronger.
  • Changing Lifestyles
    Who told that dieting, exercising, and avoiding stress are only for diabetics? You can try leading a healthy lifestyle together. This will not only make it easier to manage diabetes but also pull your lives closer to each other.

Not that complicated as it seemed, isn’t it? Go ahead and don’t lose the chance to enjoy the help and support of your partner. I bet that he/she is dreaming about giving it all to you. All you need to do is to ask.

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